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Internet Star Quits Social Media: “[social media] is not real!”

By Rachel Pedersen

Yesterday the internet was a frenzy of reactions as social media star, Essena O’Neill, produced a series of videos exclaiming (essentially) that her life was a hoax. If you haven’t seen it yet, you gotta check it out.

Wow. This is huge, and I think we can all learn from her experience. 

I am not okay with many of her blanket statements about social media. Essena spoke of social media and the internet, saying “It’s a system based on social approval, likes, validation, in views, success in followers. it’s perfectly orchestrated self-absorbed judgement.”

When she first began her social media career Essena was just 16 years old. At 16 years old I barely had a grasp on who I was, let alone beginning to tackle the world’s perception of me. This is simply too young to begin an entire career that revolves around your personal brand! But there are still lessons within this scenario that all social media users (especially small businesses) need to learn from.

So what can we learn from Essena?

  1. Personal vs. professional: From an early point in your business, you will need to decide whether or not to use your personal social media as a part of your business. One HUGE reason you probably shouldn’t intertwine the two is one that Essena encountered… When customers make comments about your business (positive or negative!) it can be dangerous to associate those with who YOU are.Combining personal and professional is not something I recommend for small businesses.
  2. Brand Persona: Your brand is something that can be created, but is usually determined early on in your business. If your business is a fun and energetic restaurant, embrace it! The fight to be perceived as a upscale restaurant for business meetings would take an entire rebranding, and it may feel like you’re working to be something that your business simply isn’t.
  3. Monetization: A good product placement creates strategic partnerships, especially when it’s a product or service your business actually uses. Being paid to represent or use a product that doesn’t fit in with your brand is actually quite silly. Your customers will spot it as an advertisement from a mile away. This is the reason I am careful to only endorse the products that I love and enjoy using.
  4. Authenticity: Be true to your brand. Don’t spend hours each day trying to get the “perfect Instagram photo” as Essena emotionally recalled in her video. This is exhausting! Allow professional photographers to worry about taking perfect photos. I give you permission to let the authenticity of a quick photo speak on behalf of your brand.

While Essena may have claimed she was done with social media, the authenticity of her videos has inevitably grown her fanbase. She will be back, with a stronger following.

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A few people noticed I wasn’t wearing my wedding r A few people noticed I wasn’t wearing my wedding ring in some recent videos, and whenever that happens, it tends to bring out a whole wave of theories.

Sometimes it’s the ring.

Sometimes it’s because I haven’t posted Poul in a minute.

Sometimes the internet just really loves a potential storyline. 

But real life is usually a lot less dramatic than people imagine.

There are a lot of parts of my life I share online, and there are also parts I protect a little more carefully.

My marriage is one of the most precious things in my life, so I don’t always feel the need to showcase it for the internet in order for it to be real.

That said, I do understand why people notice little things!

So here’s the very unexciting truth.

I love my ring. I really do. But I’ve lost enough weight since Poul gave it to me that it falls off, and when I’m working with my hands, with the horses, with the dog, or doing anything where it could slip or catch, I take it off. That’s it.

I have an irrational fear of degloving. 

So I take it off except for fancy events.

And since we’re here, I’ll say this too.

Poul is one of the most consistent people I have ever known. Steady, thoughtful, grounded, deeply talented, and the kind of person who does not need an audience to be extraordinary. Some of the best parts of our life happen off camera anyway.

So no, I do not post every moment.
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But I am very loved, very grateful, and very glad I married him fast. ❤️

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High paying clients are not rare. They’re just al High paying clients are not rare.

They’re just allergic to chaos.

Most freelancers are operating with what I call the hope pipeline.

Post something.
Pray someone sees it.
Pitch in the DMs.
Get ghosted.

Repeat.

That is not a pipeline.
That’s emotional cardio.

If you want higher paying clients, the question is simpler than people think:

Do you have one place that reliably produces leads every week?

Or are you hoping social media magically delivers them.

There are really only three sources that consistently work:

Facebook groups
LinkedIn opportunities
Magnetic content

But the trick is not where people look.

It’s how you show up.

Example.

Someone posts in a Facebook group:

“Looking for someone who can help with this.”

Most freelancers reply with the same thing.

“I can help.”

Which translates to:
“I have no proof but please choose me.”

Instead:

“I helped a client get this result. Happy to share what we did if it helps.”

Now you look like evidence.

LinkedIn works the same way.

Most people apply like job seekers.

The winners show up like partners.

They ask:

What outcome are they actually hiring for?

Not what title they posted.

And content?

Content is the quiet funnel most people ignore.

One platform.
One clear promise.
Micro case studies.
Useful breakdowns.

People don’t buy portfolios.

They buy confidence.

Clients are not paying for hours.

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Build a weekly pipeline and something interesting happens.

Your price stops being a debate.

Because the right people already decided you’re the obvious choice.

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You know the kind.

My kids will never eat processed food.
They’ll always sleep on schedule.
They’ll always behave in public.
I’ll always be calm, patient, and prepared.

And then… I actually had kids.

And what I realized pretty quickly is that parenting isn’t about perfectly executing a set of ideals. It’s about learning the actual humans in front of you.

Some days we eat really well.
Some days dinner is whatever gets everyone fed and back to peaceful again.
Some days routines work beautifully.
Some days everyone is tired and we give each other a little grace.

My goal now isn’t perfection.

My goal is balance.

To love my kids well. ❤️
To understand who they are.
To equip them with what they need to grow into strong, kind, capable humans.

That means teaching them.
Listening to them.
Protecting them.
And sometimes letting the standards breathe a little when life calls for it.

Turns out the most important part of parenting wasn’t the rules I imagined beforehand.

It was the relationship.

And that part matters a whole lot more than perfect everyhing.

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Because that story is comforting.

If it’s the algorithm’s fault, you’re helpless.
Nothing to fix.
Nothing to change.

Just bad luck.

But platforms are not emotional.
They’re not petty.
They’re not sitting there going “hmm yes let’s suppress Rachel today.”

They want one thing.

People staying longer.

That’s it.

Which means every post is being judged on one brutal metric:

Did people stop… or did they scroll.

That’s the whole game.

Not follower count.
Not hashtags.
Not the moon phase or whatever theory people are testing this week.

Attention.

Here’s the uncomfortable diagnostic question I ask when someone says “the algorithm hates me.”

Does your content make people stop
or does it make them keep scrolling

Be honest.

Because most of the time the issue isn’t reach.

It’s the first two seconds.

Attention fatigue is real.
Everyone has seen the same advice a thousand times.

Which means if the topic is basic, the angle can’t be.

This is where people get lazy.

They say “my niche is boring.”

No.

Your framing is boring.

Three levers fix most attention problems:

A visual pattern interrupt
An unexpected angle on a common topic
Or a promise that opens a curiosity loop

That’s it.

Stop chasing algorithm tricks.

Win the first impression.
Hold attention.

The platform will do what it always does…

push what people refuse to skip.

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