I’m so excited to share with you something I learned from dinner last night with a bunch of our
friends from Boise.
It was such a powerful time – as we encouraged one another, pushed each other, laughed and cried together while sharing our dreams.
Here’s the thing… Successful people stick together.
Tony Robbins, who I’m a huge fan of, talks about the 7th power.
“The 7th power is a group of your peers who completely believe in you. They believe in
you exactly at the place of life you are at right now, and they push you to continuously set higher and higher standards for yourself.
They give you the support you need to succeed, they celebrate your accomplishments and they push you to keep setting the bar higher and higher, so you never stop growing.
Peoples’ lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.
If your peer group doesn’t expect much, it’s just a matter of time before you lower your expectations of yourself.” – Tony Robbins
Then Stacey Martino of relationshipdevelopment.org takes this a step further. She sometimes speaks about the left hand and the right-hand exercise.
On your right hand are your friends, your family, the constant people in our lives. The left-hand is your 7th power peer group.
The main point here is to recognize that these two groups of people serve different purposes in your life and to maintain good relationships – it’s better that you just have separate expectations of each of these groups.
Your right hand group of friends and family – you love them just as they are.
Your left-hand group of 7th power peers – you push them and they push you toward exponentially greater personal growth because that’s what your relationship is based on.
So, last night I sat at this table with 5 other powerful women who are building successful businesses and who are strong and confident. This isn’t just about women. This is about men too.
But I just had this, like beautiful realization that we weren’t talking about reality shows or we weren’t talking about the latest fashion trend or anything like
that.
The conversations we had weren’t all business either, but they were deep and beautiful concepts.
I had this beautiful awareness of the fact that even though I can’t expect everyone in my life to be my 7th power for us.
But, I challenge you to start thinking about who you are talking to regularly… because those people are going to have such an impact on your life.
And if the people you talk to regularly are talking about the latest Avengers Movie, the newest video game or that crazy reality TV show everyone’s watching, then really think about it and recognize “is this my 7th power or is this just somebody I know in life?”
It’s ok to know those people, but I really challenge you to draw in close to the people who push you.
I want you guys to think about WHO you surround yourself with:
• Who is your peer group?
• Who are your day to day conversations with?
• Who do you call when you need support?
• Who do you message on Facebook?
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