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Why Expectations Will Always Leave You Disappointed

By Rachel Pedersen

Do you have expectations for others? Do they know you have those expectations?

Often, people make the mistake of having expectations for others without communicating those expectations. Don’t be that person! Instead, focus on communicating your expectations to others, and ask yourself, “how can I show up for others?”

Imagine being an exploding influencer at a conference trying to cross the lobby to grab a quick bite to eat. By the time you have taken 20 steps, 15 people have already stopped you. By the time you make it to grab a bite to eat, 25 people have already stopped you, 7 of those people wanted pictures, and one person wanted a video interview. Sometimes, we put expectations on others without realizing the demand they’re facing. One thing that happens with an exploding influencer is that you’re always going to let people down.

Unexpressed Expectations are Impractical

One of the things I want everyone to know is that unexpressed expectations are impractical.

Having unexpressed expectations for others is a demand relationship. I want to welcome you guys to join me into a place of freedom, a place where there aren’t expectations that are not communicated, a place where we have grace for people because let’s face it, you’re never going to please everyone, and that’s okay.

The best thing you can do in any situation is to go in with no expectations and ask yourself, “What can I get from this?” Then, process it, and turn it into a learning moment. There are a time and place for our needs and desires to get met, but not every situation is appropriate; it’s up to you to know the time and place.

Don’t Have Massive Expectations of Other People

The only thing you can control is yourself and what you take from situations. When in a situation, focus less on what you expect from others and more on the experience.

  • What did you learn?
  • What can you do to maximize the situation?
  • What can you implement?
  • What can you take notes on?

What Are Your Expectations?

It makes me sad when people have unexpressed expectations of me and are disappointed. I meet as many expectations as possible, but it’s not fair to have expectations for what other people are going to meet in terms of your needs.

Let’s not have expectations for other people that aren’t communicated. If you find yourself being disappointed by something, ask yourself, “What were my expectations going into this that was not communicated? Am I having an expectation of people that are not in a place where their capacity is able to meet it, during this time?” 

At the end of the day, if you’re disappointed in someone or a situation because your expectations that weren’t communicated, weren’t met, ultimately, that’s on you. You are the only person who can take ownership of what your expectations are of other people.

I am always going to let people down, you are always going to let people down, and that will always be a part of life. Part of that is because everyone has a series of expectations for us in who we are and how we show up. 

For me, my greatest goal is to meet every person with a smile on my face and to be supportive and kind.

Step Outside of Yourself

Instead of showing up and thinking, how are people going to meet my needs, show up, and ask yourself, how can I meet the needs of others around me?

  • How can I learn things?
  • How can I implement them?
  • How can I take action on them?
  • How can I help others?
  • How can I support others?

Showing up with serving others on your mind, versus worrying about how others are going to meet your needs is a great flip on your outlook. If you show up and say, how can I serve as many people as possible? Then you’re showing up with the right expectations.

I want to welcome you to take your personal development journey, and in every situation, ask yourself, “what can I learn from the experience of being disappointed?” Then rewire what your expectations are for the same situation in the future.

I hope you have an amazing day!

If you found this topic interesting and you would like to learn more about scaling your business, check out these resources here:

7 Steps To Develop a Growth Mindset – How to Develop a Growth Mindset:

Successful People’s Advice on Friends | Entrepreneur:

Shiny Object Syndrome: Why The Grass Isn’t Greener On The Other Side:

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