Let’s get something out of the way: I don’t have it all together.
And I’m not going to pretend that I do.
The internet loves an illusion. The spotless desk. The curated Instagram feed. The “boss mom” with perfect eyeliner running a webinar while her toddler sits quietly reading books in the background.
That’s not me.
Yes, I built an 8-figure business. Yes, I’ve coached thousands of entrepreneurs. Yes, I’ve spoken on stages, hit crazy revenue milestones, and checked off goals I used to think were impossible.
And still… some mornings I’m sending Slack messages in sweatpants while reheating my coffee for the third time because the first two got cold.
The truth? I could try to fake perfection. But here’s why I won’t – and why it actually matters more that my kids see the messy version of success.
Reason 1: Fake “Togetherness” Creates Fragile Leaders
If my kids grow up watching me act like everything is perfect, what am I teaching them? That leadership = pretending. That success = performing. That the way to survive the world is to mask.
No thanks.
I’d rather they see me in the middle of hard decisions, unfinished projects, or moments where I say out loud, “I don’t know yet.” Because resilience isn’t built from watching perfection – it’s built from watching recovery.
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Reason 2: Authenticity Scales Better Than Perfection
Perfection doesn’t scale. It cracks.
When I tried to make everything polished, I was exhausted. The constant editing, the overthinking, the need to “look like I had it together.”
But when I started letting people see the unfinished edges? That’s when my reach exploded. That’s when my posts went viral. That’s when people DM’d me saying, “Finally, someone who sounds real.”
Perfection is forgettable. Realness is magnetic.
And here’s the business kicker → authenticity costs less energy, which means you can do it consistently. Consistency = growth.
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Reason 3: My Kids Don’t Need a Perfect Mom. They Need a Present One.
This one’s personal.
If I was obsessed with pretending to have it all together, I’d spend my time curating instead of connecting.
Making sure my hair looked good instead of sitting on the floor building Legos.
Editing the mess out of my captions instead of letting them see me actually write.
They don’t need me perfect. They need me there.
And if they watch me juggle? If they see me get frustrated, regroup, and try again? That’s better modeling than perfection could ever be.
Sidebar: The Systems That Hold Me
I don’t do it all. Systems do.
- Automations handle onboarding so I’m not sending 47 emails manually.
- Frameworks (like batching and repurposing) mean I don’t have to be “on” every single day to look consistent.
- My team runs playbooks that keep everything moving even if I take a day off.
This isn’t about being superhuman. It’s about being smart enough to build scaffolding that holds everything together when I don’t.
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Reason 4: Pretending Hurts the People You’re Leading
I’ve been in rooms where leaders act like they never struggle. It’s isolating. Their team starts thinking, “Well, I can’t measure up.” Their clients start thinking, “Something’s wrong with me because this feels hard.”
When you tell the truth – when you show the messy middle – you give people permission to keep going.
That’s why I’ll share the wins and the struggles. Because if my audience thinks success = never messing up, they’ll quit the second things get hard.
Resource Spotlight: Real Tools for the “Messy Middle”
Here’s what I recommend if you’re building and it feels messy (because it will):
- Hook Bank Freebie → 100+ proven hooks to stop overthinking intros
https://rachelpedersen.clickfunnels.com/squeeze-page1649350385522 - 80 Ways to Find a Client Freebie → if you’re stuck getting started, this will break the spiral
https://rachelpedersen.clickfunnels.com/rachel-80-ways - The Social Clique → my coaching + community where we don’t pretend it’s perfect – we actually build sustainable businesses
https://www.cliqueforlife.com
Reason 5: Pretending Makes You Small
This one might sting → pretending to have it all together isn’t just exhausting. It keeps you playing small.
When you’re curating, you’re controlling. And when you’re controlling, you’re not experimenting. You’re not risking. You’re not testing wild ideas.
Every big growth leap I’ve made came in seasons where I let go of “perfect” and leaned into action. I’d rather fail in motion than stay safe in an illusion.
Final Word
So no, I’ll never pretend to have it all together. Not online. Not in business. Not in front of my kids.
Because I don’t want them to think success = spotless. I want them to know success = messy, iterative, resilient, human.
And honestly? That’s what makes it sustainable.
Resource Recap
- Domino Content Blueprint → https://rachelpedersen.clickfunnels.com/content-domino
- Content Calendar Freebie → https://rachelpedersen.clickfunnels.com/optin1698247253715
- Content Domination Bundle (Paid) → https://www.contentdominationsystem.com/squeeze-page1677190683306
- Hook Bank Freebie → https://rachelpedersen.clickfunnels.com/rachel-80-ways
- 80 Ways to Find a Client Freebie → https://rachelpedersen.clickfunnels.com/rachel-80-ways
- The Social Clique → https://www.cliqueforlife.com
